Oregon Woman Walks Out on First Date After Feeling Setup to Be Humiliated

What Happened:

Rachel Anderson, from Oregon, shared her first date experience on TikTok, which has over 820,500 views.
Her date told her to “dress comfortable” for the meeting, suggesting a casual “lounge day at home” outfit.
Rachel wore sweatpants, a sweatshirt, tennis shoes, no jewelry, and her hair in a bun.
When her date tried to take her to a fine dining restaurant, she immediately realized she was being set up to feel embarrassed.

Her Response:

Rachel felt the date was a deliberate attempt to “humble or embarrass” her.
She left immediately, got fast food, and blocked the man—no conversation or explanations.
She described it as a clear boundary: “You showed me who you were. You don’t have to show me twice.”

Public Reaction:

Many viewers called it a power play or humiliation tactic.
Commenters praised Rachel for recognizing the red flag and taking decisive action.
Others shared similar experiences where dates were intentionally set up to make them feel underdressed or uncomfortable.

Expert Insight:

Psychologist Roxy Zarrabi noted that small early power plays—like ignoring boundaries or setting someone up to feel embarrassed—are common early red flags in dating.
Those who treat humiliation as a joke or dismiss others’ discomfort often avoid accountability, and such behavior can reveal controlling tendencies early on.

Rachel’s story highlights the importance of trusting instincts on first dates and setting boundaries immediately when red flags appear.

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